Posts from the ‘De-cluttering’ Category

Hoarder or Sleep Deprived Zombie?

Tuesday, March 16, 2010
posted by Karen @ 1:16 PM

blocked entry            Have you seen all the hoarding shows that have been popping up on TV lately? I think many people are shocked that this issues is out there, but trust me, I’ve seen my fair share of clients who have been stricken with this affliction. One client had a mountain of papers stacked up on his stovetop – must have been there for years. Another had three quarters of his bed so stacked up with stuff, and I thought it was dangerous for him to try to sleep in the remaining spec of bed space (who knows when those sheets were changed.) And then there was the lady that had so many animals and animal feces in the house, my sinuses burned horribly throughout the “feng shui” consultation, and the other lady that among other clutter had 10 ash-filled urns in just one small living room space. Talk about a dead-feeling energy – it was hard to just stay awake in this sleepy, still, dark room filled with long lost relatives. Yes, hoarding is out there more than you might think.

            Well, the shows have it right, it’s not about telling them “Clean this place up and you’ll feel great!” That just won’t do. This is a physical/mental illness issue – not simply an organization-challenged issue. I once spent three and a half hours talking with a client about the possibility of clearing off the dining room table. Trust me – it’s not about the stuff on the table.

            However, here’s one idea to consider before you call the hoarding show producers. If you think you might have an issue with hoarding or have been told by others that there’s a problem, get your sleeping patterns checked, because sleep deprivation or a condition called sleep apnea may be supporting this issue. “Scientists already know – and most of us can confirm firsthand – that lack of sleep impairs cognitive function. Sleep-restricted individuals have a shorter attention span, impaired memory, and a longer reaction time.” (Sleep/Sleep Disorders News, Jan. ‘06) They also go on to say that the part of the brain that helps you “think spatially” (as in what to do with your stuff in your space) is not able to rejuvenate itself without the proper amount of sleep. So, if you think that might be you, try getting more sleep to regenerate that part of your brain that handles organization. (Of course, all my bedroom feng shui tips for rest and rejuvenation are always good to follow.) If you’re beyond feng shui help for sleep, visit a doctor or traditional Chinese Medicine practitioner for help.  And, of course, if the sleep studies check out OK, I’d suggest seeking help from a professional who specializes in hoarding to get you on the path to wellness and clarity of space.

            How do you know you’ve got the hoarding job finished? You should literally feel like it is easier to take a bigger breath (a hot tip if you suffer from asthma or other lung ailment) and you should internally feel more calm and peaceful – even though you may have felt the opposite during the de-cluttering process.

            Happy de-cluttering!

Addicted to Chocolate? Try De-cluttering Instead

Thursday, July 30, 2009
posted by Karen @ 1:14 PM

 

“It’s time,…I need a fix” I say to myself. I need that feeling again.

It’s time to do my big, whole home de-cluttering. My husband and son are going camping for 4 days and I’ve got a date with my house. I’ve been through the house before, so I know the feeling I’m going to get when I’m done.

When do I know it’s time to de-clutter? Well, I usually know when I feel that my invisible “bitch-o-meter” has been hitting “alert!” a little more than usual. You see, your house is a reflection of what is going on in your life. So, if you’ve got stuffed drawers ready to blow, and magazines piles stacking up on the floor, it could be creating that oh-so-uncomfortable urge to throw some china across the room to vent, or the feeling of unresolved “issues” piling up in your life.

The other day I just took a look in my guest bedroom closet and found 6 extra pillows. Four appear to be “on their way out, but no one had the guts to do it” and 2 are still in their original packaging. How does this happen, I ask myself? There are four pillows on the actual guest bed itself!

For those who don’t thoroughly enjoy the de-cluttering process, allow me to offer some tips.  Let’s put the issues in the tissues and get back to a centered place by de-cluttering!

First, start every project with the three-step mantra, “Eliminate, Categorize, and Organize.”  Whether you are cleaning out your undie drawer or the entire attic, these three steps are what can get you to a favorable outcome. Simply go through everything and toss out anything that is not needed in this space, then categorize what does (good undies in this pile and second string undies in that pile.) Then, once you’ve got your stuff separated out, then organize the items in the space.clean-your-room

Here’s how I’m going to attack the entire house.  To get warmed up, I plan to start with a place that I can score a “win” feeling quickly: the drawers in the dining room china hutch. (stay away from places you know will take you down memory lane or put you in an emotional tiz at first to get the ball rolling.) I know one hutch drawer is stuffed with ramekins from Trader Joe’s crème brulѐes  (they’re too good to throw away I say as I add to the pile,) so I decide to save 12 and place the rest in a to-go pile in the middle of the room.  Woo-hoo! I’m on a roll! Look how good that drawer looks with just 12 ramekins in there!

Oops – what’s that in the next drawer? Oh geez, the 6 sets of individual hen-shaped salt and pepper shakers that I thought would be cute on Thanksgiving. Really? Individual hen-shaped salt and pepper shakers? What was I smoking the day I spend money on those? And funny, but I’ve NEVER even pulled them out of their original boxes in the two years I’ve owned them. Be gone silly hens! That one “pinched” (the word I use for that funny feeling that you get when you ejected something perfectly good that you spent money on) but I’m on the other side of it. The good news is that I know that the pinch doesn’t even come close to overpowering the good feelings I get when I’m on the other side of the whole process, so I continue….

A “voted-off-the-island” wedding gift or two later (pinch, pinch), I’m ready to move onto the next room to de-clutter. I simply leave the pile in the middle of the dining room as my trophy and scoot on into the kitchen. I make sure to start with the easy stuff first (matching lids and bowls and tossing out loners) and end with the piѐce de résistance – cleaning out the cosmic black hole under the sink. Lordy, if there was ever a place that I mentally cut out of my home, it is that dungeon. I simply pretend that it doesn’t exist. I put myself into an altered state when I open the door to grab the dishwashing detergent.

But now the job is done, and I’m savoring the feeling that mimics the satisfaction-equivalent of a good chocolate bar.  Oh, the high. I simply stare in wonder at this sparkling square footage and can’t wait for another reason to open the doors.

If you can’t find three days to relish in this endeavor, start small and work your way up. Start by bringing a makeup or junk drawer to the couch with you to work on during a TV commercial break.  Work your way up slowly to a closet or room every Monday night. I swear it will give you a boost for the rest of the week. And slowly but surely, you’ll be Jonesin for a three-day session just like me.

Clutter Clearing Technique

Friday, June 5, 2009
posted by admin @ 5:30 PM

Photo for ramblingspoon.comA Clutter-Clearing Technique

When it comes to clutter, a good rule of thumb is that you need at least as much space as you have stuff in your home. The minute you have more than 50% stuff, you start slowing down your chi, lessening opportunities in life and stopping your optimal amount of money, love and general good health from flowing in. With that in mind, let’s talk about clutter. Clutter is anything in your environment that is not used, loved, or has not moved in at least two years. I also define clutter as having more than 50% stuff to space – period. You have to think 3D here. It’s not like I want to see half of every drawer bottom in your dresser to meet the 50% rule. I’m talking about the top half of the volume of drawer space, so there’s enough room to move things around and find items in that drawer. In other words, I don’t want to see spring-loaded sock balls jumping out of the stuffed drawer as you open it. It’s not about seeing half of the clothes rod empty either. It’s about having a quarter or half an inch between each hanger instead of all the hangers jumbled up and crossing over each other as they hang on the rod. Can you pass the 50% test? That’s 50% of your wall space, 50% of the mantel top, and 50% of the bookshelf left available. For bookshelves, pull all the books forward, flush with the front of the shelf. Then, all the “visual noise” from different sizes of the books is out of sight. The 50% “space” is also there, behind the books. If you are having trouble getting to meeting the 50% rule, try these tips.

If you are in a mental space where you are starting to hyperventilate while reading this, or if you have the “I can’t even see the possibility of ever getting out from under it so what’s the point of trying” attitude, then try this technique before attempting to de-clutter:

Get a pack of post-it notes. Each post-it note represents one increment of time that you decide is your threshold amount of time to give to one clutter-clearing session. Perhaps each one equals fifteen minutes, or perhaps it equals one eight-hour day. It is what you decide you are able to do. Next, go around and place a post-it note or several posts-it notes on each pile or area that needs work to conform to the 50% rule. Next, count up the notes. You can see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and that there is a calculable length of time to become clutter-free. Perhaps you have 365 post-it notes around your home. Then you will know that if you do one a day, then it will take you exactly one year to be clutter-free. Ready? Let’s begin the de-cluttering process.

Get 5 boxes capable of handling the amount of stuff in the pile. I usually use those banker’s boxes (or “dead file” boxes) from an office supply store. Label each of them as follows:

 #1 Give Away / Sell / Recycle

#2 Keep But Store

#3 It Belongs Elsewhere in the Home

#4 It Belongs Here

#5 I Don’t Know

Along with these five boxes, you’ll need a trash container.

Next, place these boxes near the “pile du jour.” Then, take everything from the pile (or the shelf, or from the closet, etc.) and place it in one of the five boxes or the trash can like a robot. Make it a goal to spend no more than about five seconds per item making a decision about it. Box number one is easy: This box is used for stuff that you can easily get rid of: stuff that you are willing to sell or give away. There is very little or no attachment to it. Box number two is for things that you need to keep, but they don’t need to be or should not be where you’re de-cluttering. This box is for stuff like tax receipts, out-of-season holiday decor, etc. These items you must keep, but they don’t need to be cluttering up the space where you are working. Box number three is for items that you use, but they are simply in the wrong part of the house: like a drinking glass or a plate in the bedroom. Instead of walking to the kitchen to put these items away, you simply place them in this box for later distribution. Box number four is for the stuff that actually belongs in the space you’re de-cluttering. You’re not going to reach around this stuff that stays. It goes in box number four. And box number five is for anything you don’t know what to do with it. Go ahead – feel free to fill this box. A lot of time, clutter collects because of the inability to make a decision about it. And of course, the trash container is for trash, dust balls, etc.

If your heart is palpitating just reading about how to de-clutter, you may find it necessary to call in a sympathetic friend or professional organizer. I know this process requires total trust that de-cluttering is going to really do something good in the end and I’m here to tell you it does. Please take a leap of faith here. You won’t regret it in the end!

Let’s say you’ve got everything separated into five boxes. Now you can do any maintenance on the shelf or drawer, or vacuum the closet, or do any cleaning that is necessary. If you haven’t moved that piece of furniture in years, I highly recommend pulling it out, and wiping down the wall behind it and every part of it. The payoff is BIG I tell you!

Next, let’s deal with the five boxes and the trash can. First, the trash can gets taken out (hopefully with recyclables separated!) The stuff in box number one goes to a charity, friends or family, etc. Pretty easy, eh? The stuff in box number two gets neatly stored in the designated storage area (remember – everything has to conform to the 50% rule – if you don’t have the storage space, then you must choose another box for this stuff! Or at the very least, and I’m not big on this; you rent space. The items in box number three get distributed around the house where they belong. The items in box number four get placed back on the area you just cleared out and cleaned up – strictly adhering to the 50% rule.

This is what you do with box number five. Put the lid on the box. Either give it to a friend or family member to hold for you for three or four months (make sure they have the space!) or tape it closed and put it in your storage area (if you have the space.) Write down in your calendar to call a friend or family member in three to four months to help you deal with this box. After the time has gone by, get together with your helper and the box. Your helper opens the box in such a way that you can’t see in it. They ask you “What do you need from this box?” Whatever you need and ask for they pull it out and give it to you. (You have to have or make space for it.)

The rest of the stuff is removed by your friend. They will decide what to do with the stuff. It’s no longer your decision. That’s it! If you don’t name it – you don’t ever see it again.

I use this method because it is an easy way to “rip off the band-aid” so to speak. Basically, what ends up going in this box are guilt trips. “I might fit into it again someway.” “I paid a lot of money for it.” “I got it for a wedding gift.” “My kid made it or gave it to me.” “I might be able to use it for spare parts someday.” “Even though it is broken, it is the only thing from Aunt Edna.” “I inherited it and have to keep it for the next generation.” “My kids left it when they moved out.” Blah, Blah, Blah. This stuff is obviously not in use at the moment. It is not loved. It is not needed at this time. Therefore it is clutter in your home, plain and simple. Have a conversation with family members that live elsewhere if you must. Perhaps they will want to take some of this stuff on, but for you it is clutter and is slowing you down. What is going on in your home is going on in your life. Do not bog yourself down with space-stealing, health-robbing, and opportunity-missing stuff please.

I hope you find these clutter clearing tips helpful in creating a safe and empowering environment for yourself.

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